Question of the Week

Here is a an idea I came up with not too long ago.  Each school year, I weekly attend a Bible study of some sort.  Over the years, I have done Beth Moore, Bible Study Fellowship (BSF) and most recently one by Priscilla Shirer.  Every time I leave from Bible Study, I am full of excitement over what God is teaching me and my brain is full of things I want to teach my children.  But, I rarely ever get it out!  I have a hard time applying what I learn.  I feel as though I have so much to share with my family about what I am learning, but have a very difficult time finding time to share with them.

So, a while ago, I got an idea!  I decided to come up with one question from my study that I can ask myself and my family.  Then, I wrote the question on our dry erase board.  This dry erase board is located right by the door where we enter and exit our home.  It is where we keep the family calendars, school reminders, etc.  So, we see this board often; it is hard to miss.

The first question I asked was, "Are you bringing honor to God in all that you do?"  I can honestly tell you that I have seen this question and read it multiple times a day every day.  Therefore, it has constantly been on my mind.  I have been reminded to make sure that whatever I am doing is honoring to God AND I've at times remembered to ask my children, "are you bringing honor to God right now...are you making God happy with how you are acting" or "...in what you are doing?"  Wow!

This has definitely impacted my own life.  This first question changed my thinking at times and assisted me in discipling my children in a way that honors God, just by merely asking them the question and getting them to start thinking about it.  It is amazing how one question can be made so simple for children and still be so deep for myself and my husband.

My second question was, "Are you walking with God?"  Again this can be so simple for my kids and a good reminder for all of us.  Yet, it can also be a deeper question that my husband and I can ponder over for the next week.  For my children, "have you talked with God today?"  "Have you listened to God today?"  For myself, "have I spent time alone with the Lord--studying His word, praying and listening?"

At times, I have forgotten to write a new question and my kids will ask me, "Mom, where's our question this week?"  I love that they love the idea and I love that they are helping keep me accountable!

Last week's question from my recent study about Gideon: "Who does God say you are?"

How do I Show Love?

"Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ."  Galatians 6:2 (NIV)

If you caught my New Year's blog, you saw my theme for the year is to "love God and love others" based on Matthew 22:37-39.  My main goal this year is to not only do this myself, but teach my children to as well.  The verse above, in Galatians, reminds me of the importance of loving others.  Many of us know this verse, but perhaps are not sure how to "carry" each other's burdens.

I use to be at a loss for how to "carry" each other burdens as well.  I knew I could always pray; however, which is very important.  We can most certainly "carry" each other to the Lord in prayer.  But what about being the "hands and feet" of Christ (1 Corinthians 12).  1 John 3:16-18 says,

"This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers and sisters.  If anyone has material possessions and sees a brother or sister in need but has no pity on them, how can the love of God be in that person?  Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth."

So, how?  How do we love "with actions?"  How do we act out love, carry each other's burden, and be the body of Christ?  I want to encourage and challenge you to reach out to a hurting mom today, this week, this month.  Who in your "world" could really use your help?  Do you have someone in mind?  Is there a single mom you know who could use your help? A mom of a child with cancer, a mom who's aging parents' health is struggling or passing away?

Then, ask, "how can I be the hands and feet of Christ for them?"  One of the best things you can do is give them a call and let them know you care, that you are praying AND then ASK what they need.  Sometimes we moms don't want to admit we need help and we certainly don't want to burden another mom with our problems.  BUT, God created us for each other, to help each other.  So, when a mom doesn't know what she needs, here are some ideas you can consider based on my own experience:

*Offer to cook a meal
*Offer to take their kids for an afternoon or a whole day, so mom can get a much needed nap (she may not realize how tired she is until the kids are gone).
*Bring a special treat: shortly after we lost our 6 year old nephew to cancer, we had some wonderful friends from church stop by with a bag of chocolate.  There were no words to say, but just the effort to stop by and bring something special for our kiddos was such a blessing!
*Send a card letting them know you are praying.  It's wonderful to pray, but oh so incredibly touching when you tell that person so they know you are praying.
*Clean their house!
*Take them out for a girl's night--take a mom out for dinner or just dessert.  Go watch a funny movie or a chick-flick.  Just get them out of the house.  Sometimes changing their environment can make a world of difference.  And a side note, girl's nights out are wonderful as long as they are positive and encouraging.  This is not a time to pick on our spouses, or join a negative parade.  This is a time to laugh, love, and encourage.  Perhaps even a time to cry together.
*Offer to go to a doctor appointment with them.
*Donate, donate, donate: your clothes, your hair (for cancer) your time.

These are just a few ways to show Christ's love to moms who are hurting.  I would love to hear any more ideas you have!  Please comment so others can know more ways to help.

PS  What brought me to this post?  A friend and a sister who are both moms and going through some really hard times right now.  And a sister-in-law who has suffered much.  Here is the blog for my niece (my sister's daughter) if you would like to follow her story and pray.  Thank you.  :)

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Love God, Love Others

"Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.'"  Matthew 22:37-39 (NIV)


Happy New Year Moms!  Wow, a new year...new opportunities, new goals, a new me, a new mom.  Are these your thoughts at the beginning of a new year?  I resolve to be a better mom, to be more physically fit, to be better with my finances, to be a better wife to my husband.  We dive right in and suddenly find ourselves smashing into the bottom of the pool.  As soon as that first mistake or failure comes (and it will) we "beat" ourselves up--how could I; I was supposed to be better at this--or we completely blow off the whole idea.  Does that sound familiar?  In all honesty, it certainly does for me.

I have been thinking and praying a lot about this upcoming New Year.  I do not want to overwhelm myself with lots of resolutions or put pressure on myself to finally be "supermom" nor to give up altogether on everything.  So, I have been talking with God about this very thing. Lord, how can I be a better mom?  How can I raise these children You have entrusted me with in a way that honors you?  I feel overwhelmed at the responsibility and tend to be quite hard on myself whenever I fail.  I have finally learned after about 7 1/2 years of parenting that failure (as I call it) is inevitable.  I will make mistakes and need to ask for God's forgiveness, which of course He lovingly always gives.  I even need to ask my kids for forgiveness often, good grief!

I must remember, God's view of me is not a failure at all.  He loves me no matter what!  And this is the very thing I have been trying to instill into my children.  There is nothing you can do, to stop God from loving you.  His love is unconditional.

This is the sign that hangs above my oldest son's door in his room.  We made this sign when he was 5, I think.  We made it because I wanted him to remember that this is what God says is the most important thing for us to do as Christians.  

So, as I have been talking with God, He has reminded me not only of His view of me, but also of the most important thing in life.  Jesus says in Matthew 22:37-39, that to love God and to love our "neighbor" is the first and greatest commandment.  This is the number one most important thing we can do to honor Him.

Therefore, when I ask God, "How can I honor you as a mom?"  His answer...to love Him and to love others and to teach my children to do the same.  Just making this my one focus for the New Year is so much better than resolving to be "supermom."  

The bible says that without love, I am nothing.  I love how The Message says it in 1 Corinthians 13:1-3, "If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate.  If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing.  If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere.  So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love."

LOVE is the most important thing I can give, show, and teach my children.  And I have learned that the more I know God's love and "fill" myself up with His love, the more I can show that love to others.  When my "cup" is filled and overflowing with God's love, then others will have that love come pouring over to them!  Is that not amazing!  And, loving others becomes easy, not a chore or something else I need to add to my "to do" list.   When I know God's love, I naturally want to love others!  

I plan to blog more on this in the New Year.  So, prayerfully resolve with me to know and experience God's love this year.  Dive into His overwhelming love because when you do, I believe we will all be suddenly surprised to not smash into the bottom of the pool, but instead, to soar through the water, splashing His love joyfully onto others.

Take Time to Make Memories

Merry Christmas all! I am honored to have the opportunity to do some blogging with Jenny on her fantastic site. After having the privilege of knowing Jenny for almost twenty years, I was thrilled when she asked me to contribute. I look forward to sharing stories of my faith and learning many of your own as we muddle our way together through this precious gift of motherhood.

 

 

 

It’s 7:00 PM on Friday, December 21^st. Today was supposed to be a day of huge excitement. First there were those who assumed life as we knew it would end today. Of course, as we all know, the world is still turning and each of us is still blessed with the opportunity to continue enjoying life. With that established, it was time to begin our regular morning. I quickly realized though that the rest of our planned excitement was about to drastically change. Instead of getting dressed to head to my daughter’s school for her class holiday party, I was taking her temperature and trying to figure out the best way to get the supplies, food, and crafts to the school with a daughter running a temperature of 102 and looking thoroughly miserable.  Needless to say, my definition of excitement changed greatly.

By lunchtime it was official. My precious little one tested positive for both flu and strep. It was not the way we intended to begin celebrating Christmas.

Now, I’m sitting here with her head in my lap trying to figure out how to rearrange all of our plans. You see, like most Moms, I am the ultimate manager. I am the one who organizes everything for our family – the schedules, the gifts, the travel arrangements, the food, and every other thing imaginable. My planning schedule just got turned upside down.

As Moms, we work hard to ensure the holidays are as perfect for our families as possible. Yes, we know the importance of togetherness instead of things, and of flexibility instead of perfection. In fact, many of us encourage those ideas every year at the exact same time we are stressing over making Christmas cookies, wrapping presents, or putting in appearances at family get togethers. You see, we can focus so hard on doing the right thing for our families for Christmas that we forget to do the important thing.

Somewhere along the way, we forget the significance of making memories and it’s those memories that will carry our children into the future. They won’t always remember what they received for Christmas, whose Christmas present was wrapped the best, or which cookie had the most beautiful design. Instead, they will remember the year the turkey didn’t cook and Spam was served in its place. They will remember the year the cat climbed up the Christmas tree. They will remember the year the nametags were not filled out on the presents and they played the game ‘match the gift to the person.’

My daughter will not get a chance to sing her solo on Christmas Eve. She will not get to travel and visit with her cousins nor will she be able to wear her new Christmas dress. Instead, because of the strep and the flu, many of our standard family traditions we have built a lifetime making with her will fall to the wayside. So, Mom is throwing out the plan book. Instead, we are going to have a quiet Christmas of three and spend our time making those unplanned memories she will never forget.

Moms, in these last few days before Christmas, I encourage you to take a little pause and see if you can find some time to create the little memories with your family in addition to enjoying the beloved family traditions. Don’t stress when they occur; instead, enjoy them. They will be remembered!

Take Five

Hey, Sorry I have been so silent for so long... life has been CRAZY!  I have not been in the writing mood in a very loooooong time, and that is not normal for me.  You see, last year we adopted a 5 1/2 year old boy, and soon after settling in with him and getting past all the transitional crazy that went with that, the Lord led us to get pregnant again.  So last Dec, right after Christmas I found myself with child. The news came one beautiful morning, and then later that night I got a call that my Dad had been rushed to the hospital... a few days later he died.  So dealing with his death, still adjusting to the new son, and being pregnant made for an interesting year.  But all is well, and of course we are loving life no matter how hard it is at times.  Our sweet little girl was born Aug 31, and is such a bundle of joy to each and every one of us.  The transition to 5 kids was not as easy as I was hoping.  She is a great baby, but juggling an infant with my already full life with all we got going on, wiped me out.  We are finally figuring things out; a new normal is making its way into our life.

Anyway, I wanted to share something here that I have been doing recently.  Really I don't know why I have not been doing something this structured sooner, because I have known about this parenting wisdom for some time now and heard it a few times in different places.  I guess maybe I didn't like the appointment type approach it seemed to have.  But, one of my kids is in counseling and it was recently brought back to my attention; so I decided to give it a try.  I did not want to just do it without telling the kids what I was doing.  And I want them to be able to help me remember and hold me accountable to doing this.  I also like to try to make things sound fun or cool for the kids and wanted to make it easy for them to remember.  So, like my "hang time" I have mentioned before where each month 1 kid gets a day where we have special time together out of the house, now we have "take five".  This is 5 min a day, that each child gets to have with mommy all to themselves.  Of course it can go over that 5 min if able or allowed, but the idea is for the kid to get 5 min to do whatever they want to do with mom.  They get to choose and as long as it is something they are allowed to do, we do it.  I am not allowed to give commands, or say anything negative, or ask any questions... we have fun playing whatever that kid wants to play.  I enter into their world, just like I was a kid too.  The kids really like this idea.  My son, who is an extreme E personality, will always come and say "take five" to me constantly.  So whenever I am not busy with something that needs attention at that moment, we are not doing school, the baby is okay without me, etc... they are allowed to come say "take five".  They can only have one a day, unless all the kids have had theirs and there is somehow a lot of spare time in my day still and I am able to do more.  This is still new, but I look fwd to seeing how it goes and what things come of it.  I hope it helps grow our relationships better and love each other better.

DO any of you do something like this as well?  If so, does it work?  What do you do differently?  Do you find it hard to have child-led play time?  Do you find yourself turning 5 min into an hour?  Would love to hear input.

Go enjoy your kids,
Chrissy

Being Thankful

This year as I prepare for Thanksgiving, I am sad.  I am thankful for this time of year to stop, be with family, and reflect on what I am thankful for this year.  However, I am saddened by the consumerism that is attempting to over shadow this day.  In case you did not know, there are going to be stores open for business on Thanksgiving day with sales galore to entice you to shop until you drop.  However, Thanksgiving is a time to STOP (not shop)--stop being busy, stop being selfish, stop forgetting.  It is a time to enjoy our families, a time to give, and a time to remember our blessings this year.

Don't we need to stop?  Don't we need to breathe?  Don't we need to take a moment and reflect?  Don't we need to catch up with family and enjoy their presence while we still can?  This is a great day to rest. Even our Heavenly Father wants us to stop, to rest, to give, to reflect.  Why would anyone want to throw all that away just to be busy at stores?  Why is it our nature to be busy and constantly "doing?"  Why is it so hard to stop, to rest?  Why must we fall into the temptation of consumerism, amazing sales, and having more and more stuff?

This Thanksgiving, I want to encourage you to STOP.  I want to encourage you to slow down.  I want to encourage you to not fall into the temptation of "doing."  I encourage you to spend time with family, rest, and encourage each other.  I encourage you to reflect on all the ways God has blessed you this year.  Furthermore, I encourage you to teach your children to stop, to slow down, to reflect as well.  I encourage you to play with your children instead of shopping for them.  They will probably play with that toy for a few weeks and be done with it, ready to move on to something new.  But, if you spend time getting down on the floor with them and play, they will remember it forever.

So, stop, rest, reflect, teach, and play this Thanksgiving.  :)

With a thankful heart,
Jenny

Grandma's Corner

The following article is contributed by: Lorraine Richardson

GOD, our God!  GOD the one and only!  Love GOD, your God, with your whole heart:  love him with all that’s in you, love him with all you’ve got!  Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts.  Get them inside of you and then get them inside  your children.  Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night.  Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates.   Deuteronomy 6:5-9 (The Message)

Inside Out Living …

God wants to engage His people in a loving relationship.  The spiritual nurturing of your child, although an awesome responsibility, is an inspiring opportunity.  What he learns about God during his preschool years may set the pattern for your child’s thinking and decision making for the rest of his life.  How will his personality develop?  In what ways will his natural abilities and gifts expand and be used?  What has God prepared for his life’s calling?  Will your son or daughter continue to grow spiritually?  What is the unique contribution God has for your child to make in our world?

God created and he saw that it was good; God communicated with the Son and with the Holy Spirit and said, “Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule …”  (Genesis 1-2).  God saw all that he had made, and it was very good…  Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORD God as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day … But the LORD God called to the man:  “Where are you?” 

Has God been calling you out for “talk” time with Him?  Do you feel Him constantly tugging at your heart strings?  Has God whispered to you to come and enjoy His presence?  Do you sense His presence in your life?  He walked in the garden He created and He talked with the people he created.  The Bible tells us as believers that God lives in our hearts through the Holy Spirit.  He has called believers to be set apart from the world, to be holy and blameless; and He has commanded us to tell our children about Him, passing along the baton of faith to the next generation.  Linda Shultz Anderson reminds us that parenting reveals more about our core values than anything else in our lives, and that moms really do matter.  Our mission matters as Moms!  God’s commands?  “Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children.”

      

You might say, “I listen to God all day long, and I play spiritual music frequently, but I have no time to lean back in those everlasting arms and truly enjoy His presence.”  Give yourself a “time out!”  Let your kids know that you need a time out with Jesus.  Withdraw from the mom busyness, even if it’s for ten or fifteen minutes.  Set a special place for your time out.  Jesus withdrew alone from the crowds, from the demands and went to a solitary place to pray (Mark 1:35).    Be honest before God.  Tell Him that you’re tired and weary and need rejuvenated, open your heart freely, but appropriately if kids are present.  Spend time in thanksgiving and praise for what God is doing in your life.   Conclude with intercession, especially for your family.  Pray, pray, pray the Joseph prayer and listen for God to speak to you!   Eventually, your kids may want to join you; let your kids see you on your knees in your special place!  This is not for show as with the Pharisees, but use this to impress upon your children that time with God is a priority in your life.  Be the mirror that reflects God’s glory.  Children observe actions more than words!

Grandma Rain